November 15th, 2024 / µ

I Am Taking It Step By Step

A reader of this blog wrote me an email with her own story—thank you so much for sharing. Reading and responding to this email made me think a bit about what I had actually done to end my stalking nightmare after I realized in late 2019 that you cannot escape gang stalkers. The five steps below constitute the route I have taken to go from an absolute nightmare to what will hopefully be a lasting solution.

As written earlier, I am aware that my situation is extreme. But still, I hope that my step-by-step guide can help someone out there.

Accept, Reflect, Secure, Plan, Execute

1. Accept

Accept where you are and what has happened to you. Acceptance does not mean liking or bowing your head, though. In this context, it means acknowledging that a problem exists, that you are the victim of gang-stalking, instead of ignoring or even denying the problem because it is too much to handle emotionally.

The way I see it, whatever happens in your life, accept it, however much it hurts to do so. If you don’t, Freud and his demons will be coming for you one day. You need to acknowledge that a problem, a situation, or a thing exists before you can deal with it. It is that simple.

2. Define

When you have accepted the problem, reflect on what you can do to deal with the situation the problem has led to. In this context, the problem is the stalkers. The situation is what they are doing and how they manipulate, as well as everything else they do.

Remeber, reflection is not narcissism. It is a way to understand and gain perspective, which will help you define your problem and the situation. Once you have defined the problem and the situation, you will know what you have to deal with.

Take as long as you need, write, talk it out, possibly with yourself (make sure you are at home when doing so 😉), work through it, and go back if things change.

3. Secure

Secure the premises, that is, your home and possibly your car, and make sure you are safe. Do whatever you have to do within the boundaries of your financial limits and the law to ensure your safety.

Safe does not mean that you won’t be harassed or surveilled. In this context, safe means that you establish an environment around yourself where the stalkers cannot hurt you physically. Alarm systems, live with someone, etc.

4. Plan

When you feel safe, you can begin to think about a solution. Feeling safe means you relax, and when you relax, you are rational. And you need to be rational to find an effective solution to stop the stalkers.

Frightened and panic-stricken people never made good plans.

I don’t use the term escape here because my experience has taught me that when you are a gang-stalking victim, there’s no escape unless you plan to disappear and start all over on the other side of the world with a new name and a new nose!

You have to stop gang stalkers because you can’t escape them.

So, the solution you have to come up with must be a solution to stop the stalkers. If you live in a country with a decent police force, obviously, the police are your go-to solution number one. If you don’t, you have to be … creative!

5. Execute

When you have your solution, whatever it may be, let nothing stand in your way except the law, of course. Stop the monsters who are stealing your life!

That’s The Way It Is,

as Céline sings

Accept that gang-stalking has changed your life as well as how you think. The solution you come up with to stop the stalkers will most likely change your life, too.

I am close to the end – not dying, but the end of my solution – and the more at ease I feel, the more hate I feel towards all those who have failed me, refused me assistance, and all those who did nothing when I asked for help, and it would have been so easy for them to do something.

When I start my life again next year, 2025, I will still be me, but an older me with even fewer illusions than those I had left in 2014 after my world had come tumbling down. I will still be me, but a changed and harder, stronger and tougher me. That’s the way it is, and I have no problem accepting that! As they say:

I am what life made me!

And here’s a good point – if I should say so myself - for those who bothered to read all the way to the end:

In my experience, if you can emotionally park your hatred in a specific geographical location, you can move on and be happy again when you leave that geographical area behind. There are places I won’t ever set foot again, even if someone paid me to do it. I have emotionally parked my hate for specific people and events in those geographical spots in various countries, hate that I refuse to let go of because that would, in my world, equal forgiving—and I don’t do that; I move on.

“We can’t ever go back to old things or try and get the old kick out of something or find things the way we remembered them. We have them as we remember them, and they are very fine and wonderful and we have to go on and have other things because the old things are nowhere except in our minds now.”

- Ernest Hemingway

From Chaos to Structure

Summing up my suggestion for a structure that will take you from chaos and emotional turmoil to putting an end to a situation:

Accept,

Define,

Secure,

Plan,

Execute!

Good luck!

Thanks for reading! I hope you found it valuable and worth your time! Until next time, remember to get your facts straight and that whatever good times you have won’t come back as bad times,