March 8th, 2023 / µ

The Gossip Wagon

One of the easiest ways to discredit a single woman is to spread rumors that she is crazy.

In my experience, people will jump on that gossip wagon within a split second because it is fun and easy. And if something is an easy thrill on someone else’s behalf and without consequences for the morons of this world, they will do it and love it.

“Gossip is the new pornography.”

— Woody Allen.

Troubled Times

The rumor that you are crazy can get started in no time, and you may not even know why. The reason can be as follows,

You tell someone to take a hike – rumors are spread that you are crazy.
You say no thanks to a job – rumors are spread that you are crazy.
You complain about something – rumors are spread that you are crazy.
You air an opinion that is not wildly appreciated - rumors are spread that you are crazy.
You have more than someone who believes women are inferior to men and thus should have less of everything, including freedom - rumors are spread that you are crazy.
You have the wrong friends - rumors are spread that you are crazy.
You don’t act with respect towards some idiot with low self-esteem - rumors are spread that you are crazy.

In general, it takes minimal effort to get idiots to believe the worst about a single woman, from a part-time prostitute to clinically insane. But the classic is:

She is crazy!

Does it Hurt?

Some might feel insulted, and some might even feel hurt when they are the victims of rumors and slander like the above. Me, I get angry and remember.

Since 2016, I have had to ignore situations such as being yelled at, having people pull their kids close, so they would not come in contact with me, and warningly state:

That woman is crazy!

And where I live now, it was customary for a while when certain teenagers passed by my house they would laugh and say things like:

That’s where that crazy bitch lives!

(Translated from Danish).

I don’t get hurt. I get angry. But I do nothing because I have learned a lot about Danes throughout my life, and today I can sum it up in that one true sentence, Hemingway talks about:

More often than not, Danes are devils!

I do not respond to the lowlives who spread rumors, nor to the idiots who believe them. I let my anger fertilize me, and I write out my anger and hatred in fictional stories. And draft the non-fictional account of what has happened over the years.

When Lies Become Collective Truths

The terrible thing about lies is that, over time, they can fester and become collective truths. In a good world, this would not happen – people would think, reflect, question, and show empathy. But the world is not good; the world just is, and people are often mean. And so lies become collective truths very easily.

I know who started the rumors that I was insane back in 2016. And judging by police reports about me, some people at the local police believed it, and the Danish police force does not seem to fact-check. Truth is irrelevant in the Danish judicial system.

**What Can You Do?**

What can you do if you are the victim of slander and libel?

I would suggest you ignore as much as possible and focus on your life. I know it is hard, but you owe it to yourself NOT to give in to criminals. And most of all, you owe it to yourself to live your life.

Actively, you can create an online presence that presents the real you, the truth – social media, website, Spotify lists, even. If you build such a universe, in your own name, you control the narrative, and the lies spread about you will be less believable.

TIP: I would refrain from posting too many pictures of yourself online; these can be edited to ridicule and hurt you.

Some will still believe the lies because they want to, but that kind of mental state and stupidity no one can fight.

Thanks for reading! I hope you found it valuable and worth your time! Until next time, remember to get your facts straight and that whatever good times you have will never come back as bad times,